Confessions
Asked My Long-Distance Boyfriend for Transport Fare—His Reaction Made Me Rethink Our Entire Relationship!
I’ve been dating this guy for less than six months, and it’s a long-distance relationship. Recently, I visited him, and when it was time for me to return home, I told him I didn’t have transport fare. We joked about it at first — he even said I could just trek home — but I was serious about not having money on me.
He walked me to the park, and even after I mentioned again that I didn’t have money, he said nothing. So I brought out my card to withdraw from a POS stand, and that’s when he stopped me and gave me 7k, saying that’s all the cash he had left.
When I got home, I messaged him and asked, “What if I hadn’t asked for the fare? Would you have given me anything?” He said yes, but not up to the 7k — maybe 4k or 5k — or he would’ve just transferred it later.
This was our third time seeing each other. The first time I went to his place, I didn’t ask him for transport fare at all. Even when I was leaving, he didn’t offer, though he said he was broke then. But this second visit was planned — not spontaneous. So why didn’t he factor in my transport fare?
I had already spent 7k getting to his place, and he expected me to also spend another 7k returning — that’s almost 15k on transport. I’m not really angry about spending the money — I’m taking it as a lesson. What really upset me was his reaction when I brought out my card. Like, what was I supposed to do? Just stand at the park and hope he figures it out?
I later requested his account details and returned the 7k. Then he started saying he was only joking, that he’s disappointed in me, and brought up everything we’ve said about not arguing or misunderstanding each other — basically guilt-tripping me.
I told him honestly that he should’ve made plans for my fare. Then he said, “You’re not a hookup girl. It’s hookup girls that demand for money like that.” He claimed that giving money is based on his discretion — whether he gives or not, and how much he chooses to give. He added that he was disappointed in me for even bringing it up right before leaving.
This is someone we plan are planning a relationship that’ll lead to marriage oo
